No one wants a good guy, but a good guy is good

No one wants a good guy, but a good guy is good

These words were uttered by one of my female colleagues in a discussion we had this Tuesday at the office. So you know all my colleagues are female and you wouldn't believe the stuff I've learnt this from them, this year already.

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These days people talk about playing the game and being the this and that sort of player. Let me be precise, when I say people, I mean guys. Here's the thing, when you find yourself having been friend zoned more times than you have actually been the boyfriend you probably need to know something. Here it is, girls simply do not want good guys. The moment you think you're being a gentleman, there's another guy out there doing the exact opposite of what you're doing, yet getting benefits that you are still dreaming of having.

Don't get me wrong. From what I heard, you don't have to be mean, cruel, and physically abusive or something from a Yizo-Yizo prison scene. All you have to be is someone with an ‘uyeza noma awuzi’ attitude. Here are examples,  ; be the guy who laughs at a girls sob stories while she’s busy confiding in you; ask her once if she wants to do something and walk off while she’s still taking her time with the answer; call her to your place and have her cook for you; leave her to go drinking with your friends and come back next morning when she has come to visit you for the weekend, Throw in an argumentative nature over the most irrelevant matters and the promise of a slap or the actual act and voila! You’re the elusive, mystical ‘bad boy’ that makes girls weep (literally) and weak at the knees.

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‘Who wants to go party with a good guy, that’s just a recipe for a boring night’ this paraphrased statement is a watered down account of what was actually said. In the  discussion I mentioned above.The do's and don't according to my colleagues were concise and straight to the point, and went like this:

·         Never drop everything when she just decides to tell you she’s coming at a spur of the moment, she should know that your life doesn't revolve around her.

·         When she comes over to your place, open the packet of chips, drink the juice or cool drink and eat a couple of those biscuits in that pack. She should think your place always has these goodies, not that you only buy them when she comes around.

·         Lastly, if you ever agree to let her bring her friends to an outing whereas you had invited only her, you've lost the game my friend. Your place at the players hall of fame has been given to a real player, and not poor you.